Fear, Rising Up and Shining Brightly
Becoming aware of what you are fearful of is a great starting point for deciding what to hold on to and what to let go of. Awareness is after all, a key to happiness.
A friend of mine was recently confronted with one of her biggest fears and it nearly overtook her. She had a big decision to make that really challenged her. She couldn’t talk about it and was quiet and withdrawn for a couple of weeks. It really affected her being.
I liken what I saw in her to a feeling I get, that I describe as a clutching chill that envelops my heart. It constricts my breath and makes me feel stalled. It feels overwhelming, consuming and gets in the way of my being.
I believe this overwhelming feeling of fear happens to us all at some point. What we do about the happening is the part that I want to consider today.
When fear grips me, usually I know what it is, but I don’t always know what triggered it. I like to ask myself and see if I can identify the trigger behind the fear. Sitting with my fear can be really confronting, so I take steps to ensure I feel safe (and I believe this is really important). Once I have identified the belief associated to the fear, it helps me to reveal it for what it is. So far, it has always turned out to be something I have constructed from a perception or an event. Now, I’m not saying I don’t have great reasons for the construction! Often I really do and when I constructed the fear, it was very real and very relevant. However, what I have found as I explore further, with and from the safety of hindsight, I see the origin of the fear, and in its unveiling, I am better prepared to tackle it head on - if and when I choose.
I have found that if I allow my fears to get in my way then I dull my shine and act small.
American author, spiritual teacher and lecturer Marianne Williamson said, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.”
In my book You-phoria: The Art of Authenticity, I wrote “Questioning our greatness and dampening our light with self-judgment, criticism and by playing small, distances us from our brightest selves.” It's limiting. Can you identify with this?
Also from You-phoria: The Art of Authenticity, “In the face of fear and self-doubt, we need to try even harder to find our authentic self. If the world mirrors to me what I need to see in myself, I need to fall in love with ALL of me, and accept who I am ALL the time.”
So, what do you do when you recognise fear rising up inside you? Do you check it out or run from it?
What does FEAR mean for you? Does FEAR = Face Everything And Run or does FEAR = Face Everything And Rise…
I bet you are wondering what my friend did? Did she face the fear or keep the status quo? Well this time, she chose to confront her fear, she faced it and exposed it for all it was, and all it wasn’t, and she made a change. So far, everything about the change is great and she is shining brightly again!
A great outcome! It’s not always plain sailing though. I have addressed my fear before and it has gone pear-shaped. But what I have found, is that in the addressing I am empowered (afterwards) and that feels really good!
From the words of the American author Caroline Myss: “Just let go. Let go of how you thought your life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness.”
Personally this is very pertinent for me today. How about you? Can you “just let go” of what you believe is holding you back?
I hope this gives you food for thought and that you have a great day!
If you want more of my book You-phoria: The Art of Authenticity you can get it here…